SELF-SABOTAGE: STOP IT, AND YOU’LL START TO HAVE FUN
LOCKED IN CAREER.
Do you ever feel stuck in your career?
Yeah, I know.
It happened to me 27 times. In 27 different jobs. From the first in a supermarket, or when I used to drive vintage vehicles, when I was a security guard or a hairdresser or a naval designer … Better stop. But the substance doesn’t change: something pushed me to “try again” and “change”.
This attitude has always been criticized and pointed as INDECISION or INSECURITY. It is obvious that from the beginning of my professional life I always thought I had something wrong.
I don’t think about it anymore today. I know there’s nothing wrong with me or anyone like me. Who has experienced this knows the relief that comes from it.
NOTHING WRONG. YOU HAVE A LOT OF PASSIONS
Much of my serenity comes from the discovery of belonging to Emilie Wapnik’s Multipotentials. And to those who are in the same condition or don’t know exactly what I’m talking about I recommend the vision of Ted that started all or the wonderful work that Sonia Elicio is making for the multipotential society that asks for justice in our country (Italy)!
Today ONE among those who defined me as undecided and didn’t know where I wanted to go professionally said that she is proud of me, and wholeheartedly wants to understand what is now my PROFESSIONAL JOURNEY.
Not only the character of a person contributes to creating this state of INADEGUATY, but factors that I call TERRITORIAL ISOLATION, the LOW INFORMATION SUPPORT by the SYSTEM and the miserable job opportunities that come from our region.
All this meant that in just twenty years of work I could pay the bills and the mortgage, but I couldn’t define myself PROFESSIONALLY HAPPY.
The previous generations will already be there to read with disapproval (“my dear, paying the bills is a serious and responsible thing and not everyone can -or have been able- to flit in search of the dreaming job!”): I understand. But now it’s enough. Today we have different possibilities, different opportunities: and just as the pioneers have simplified the way for those who come, we have a duty not to waste those opportunities.
THE FAMOUS DOTS.
Now you read it everywhere: if you have ever tried to understand something about yourself you will find everywhere the advice to “connect the dots“; whether it’s from Steve Jobs or my husband.
SO DO IT! I did it and it came out an incomprehensible doodle, but that is work in progress! And I know I have undertaken a right path than I have ever done! Find the common thread, look for recurring experiences, find the “artistic” vein inside those job roles, remember when you’ve been happy even for a single moment at work. This is done. And even if, as in my case, connecting the dots doesn’t show you a clear drawing of what you have to do but the doodle of my 10-month-old son, insist on joining them in the days to come! WORK ON IT!
Yesterday I received a phone call that gave me so much excitement! I was invited to an event in my region. An event that just a few years ago looked like an incredible discovery full of established professionals, people doing innovative things, an event that inspired my professional journey. And in November I’ll become one of those people who inspired me. WOW. This is the circle that closes, Karma, I don’t know how to call it but … I really like it!
Because it has unlocked me from a situation where I was professionally for 7 years and personally for a few months. This wonderful news made me get up, I light up the fireworks in my head and made me draw a line on the calendar: yesterday was my new day 0.
FIND A DIFFERENT POINT OF VIEW, A NEW PERSPECTIVE AND DESIGN YOUR TIME AGAIN.
Now, days of work await me: splendid, hard, wonderful work not to disappoint expectations starting from myself. To DESIGN YOUR TIME I mean to apply the methods learned by doing Backward Planning. I’m designing the next 4 months, divided into segments and boxes, each with tasks to be completed. A true editorial calendar with the deadlines related to both the event and my profession, which at this point, in its evolution, will be the topic of discussion.
I can no longer postpone because everything is linked, I will have to prove what I will discuss: NO ESCAPE! It’s scary and exciting at the same time! But it works. Often it is this that moves things in our favor: persist and insist even when you do not see any light on the horizon and be ready to jump in the saddle because sooner or later will arrive a reply to a sent email and you’ll not be able to stop anymore. Better to be prepared! Above all, the way could turn out to be right on its way and the dots will continue to appear …